But did his father mean, 'You won in the game of life,' or 'You won over me, your father, who told you - assured you when you were small and kept reassuring you - that you were worthless'? Sedaris concludes, 'Whichever way he intended those two faint words, I will take them, and in doing so, throw down this lance I've been hoisting for the past 60 years.'

So he's disarmed when this much-diminished man turns to him and says, 'David.You've accomplished so many fantastic things in your life. Sedaris arrives burdened with resentments, including the fact that his father had cut him out of his will a few years earlier without telling him. In the aptly titled 'Unbuttoned,' he and Hugh rush from England to Lou's bedside in Raleigh, N.C., after getting a call that Sedaris' father, then 96, had taken a turn for the worse. Five of the 18 essays in Happy-Go-Lucky concern his father's last months - and how they affected Sedaris. Now, in the wake of his father's death in May 2021 at the age of 98, Sedaris is less intent on garnering laughs than in gauging his feelings. In Calypso (2018), he memorably likened the two of them to 'a pair of bad trapeze artists, reaching for each other's hands and missing every time.'

Sedaris has long been frank about his lifelong disconnect with his father, but he has reflected more openly - and movingly - about it since his father reached his nineties. He may have milked the material for laughs, but these stories were not like the inherently playful, fond ribbing he has given his sisters Amy, Lisa, and Gretchen, or his longtime partner, Hugh. Unlike his tender essays about his mother, who died in 1991, Sedaris' bitter-edged portraits of Lou Sedaris, an ultra-conservative crank who undercut him at every turn, are not flattering. The money was a comfort, but better yet was the roar of live audiences as they laughed at how petty and arrogant he was.' Then I started to write about it, to actually profit from it. 'As long as my father had power, he used it to hurt me,' he writes in in his latest collection, Happy-Go-Lucky. For many, the gloves come off, relieved to finally have the last word.ĭavid Sedaris' situation is different, because he's been writing about his father for years.

It's always interesting to see how a writer's work changes after their parents are gone.

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